I recently finished reading a phenomenal book called "Personality Plus" by Florence Lattuear. In this book he writes about four personalities that people have.
You have the "phlegmatic" personality which is known as the flat type. They are easy going and relaxed, not excitable and nonchalant.
Then there is the "melancholy" personality. This is the thinker/mental type. They evaluate the positives and negatives, make lists, and make sure all-there-ducks-are-in-a-row.
And don't forget the "sanguines"! Can I get a woot-woot! This is the social-type. They enjoy fun, socialising, chatting, telling stories - and are fond of promising the world, because that's the friendly thing to do.
And last but CERTAINLY not least...you have the "choleric" personality. This is the commander-type. Cholerics are dominant, strong, decisive, stubborn and have a get things done no matter what attitude.
Now...this post is not to tell you about personalities...you REALLY should read about it on your own...it's to apologize ahead of time for my choleric personality coming out in this post.
You see, out of 40 points on this test, I scored a whopping 34 points on the choleric side, 4 points in Sanguine and 2 on Melancholy. So with my "delightful" choleric personality, I'm going to answer many questions that have come up in my life, and try to explain the huge change that has happened in our lives as well.
But since I have been learning a lot on how to better relate to those NOT choleric, and to be a better person...I would like to try to write the following post...as a simmered down choleric! Here goes...
A while ago, my amazing husband and I decided to work with close friends of ours. They introduced us to a totally different world that we had never expected would enter our lives. We've been questioned, made fun of, insulted, ridiculed, and thankfully on few occasions praised and congratulated for taking this step forward in our life together.
Now...what is this..."different world" you say? Well...it's a business...and I'm not ashamed to say that yes...we ARE involved in a business!!! And we LOVE it. Without going into a million details I do want to explain why we love doing what we are doing. I'd like to explain this, by showing you the changes that have come into my life since being on this endeavor.
Even just a year ago, I HATED learning new things. I could care less about what was happening in the government, what the next page in my textbook said, or even what was on the news that night. I didn't want to learn because I had already done enough of that! Ha! Selfish, stupid me. Who was I to decide when I would quit learning about life and learning about my self and others. Now, I LOVE to learn. I'm learning about myself, I'm learning about my friends and family, strangers, my husband, and most importantly my Maker.
Our financial situation over here in the Vos household has never been easy. Being students and being married is hard! But it wasn't just that we were students. We had NO CLUE about the world of finances. Learning more about being a better steward on this earth and learning from people who KNEW how to control that area in their life...has changed that world for us in SO many ways. Are we completely debt free yet? No...but we are on our way! And that is SO much further than where we were before.
Marriage...OOOOOOOOOOOOOOH boooooy. I was a bucket full of pride in this area. I read a ton of books on marriage, and I was in love...can't stop me now!!!! Right? Yeah...NO. Oh man is there a lot to learn, and I do not by any means call myself an expert but through some reading...some listening and observing of some DANDY Christian couples in this business...I have learned so much more than I ever thought I could. I have so much more to learn...but the difference is...this time....I WANT TO LEARN how to be a better wife to my husband. Little choleric tidbit: If you want to see a change in your spouse, you better change yourself first. Psscchht...ask me if I believed that last year. :) The leaders in this business are not the norm for businesses in this world. To be highly praised and commended, are those couples who before this business came into their lives were getting a divorce and are now the strongest Christian couples who are absolutely head over heals in love with each other today.
My husband...I have never been more proud of the man I married. He has changed so much...from, learning so much! He has become a Spiritual leader in our marriage as well as an amazing husband for me.
Myself...It's hard as a choleric to put this category at the end instead of first!!! However, if that isn't a prime example of how I have changed so far...I don't know what is. I am by no means "there" yet...but since when do I admit that I need to change my "bold, opinionated" approach to life. I am so excited for the person I am becoming, and who I will be someday.
There is so much more, and I wish I could go on and on...but by now you are probably getting bored and thinking, "Should I keep reading, or turn off the computer." Here is just a few more thoughts...then I promise I am done.
I heard from someone close to me the other day that we are crazy for wanting to "do such a thing." I've heard things like, "you'll never get anywhere"..."skam!"...and the worst one so far was one that insulted my walk with Christ.
Well my question is this...If there was something in this world that made you a better person, which could in turn make the world a better place...by teaching you HOW to think instead of what and when to think. That could change your life by allowing you to be FREE from the burdens of the world. That can take a raging choleric like myself and start turning me into a person who wants to learn and wants to practice humility and love. That can really change the world...if there was something in this world like this...WHY WOULDNT YOU WANT TO DO IT!
Why wouldn't you? The same reason it took me forever to get it. I was afraid of something different. I let other people convince me that this was not the way to go.
But I'm here to tell you this...watch out...cause it's happening fast and it's happening now.
Instead of taking relationship advice from the novelists who have had 5 divorces, I'm taking relationship advice from couples who are more in love with each other now than the day they first said, "I love you."
Instead of taking financial advice, or hearing negative comments from those who are constantly stretching the dollar, We are taking advice from millionaires and people who are financially free in their lives. (It's funny how so many people think money is evil, and being financially free must mean you didn't do something right along the way). Isn't worrying about money sinful, instead of having money and being free from the burden?
I truly feel I have been given a blessing. A blessing to reach others around this world with a message of hope. Divorce, bankruptcy, crazy political issues, depression, lack of faith, poor health...those things are just not an option for me anymore. And yes...my choleric self is FINALLY saying...I don't want it to be an option for ANYONE anymore.
Whether I made 0 dollars in this or a million...I've already started changing lives along the way...and that is worth more than any dollar I could ever earn showing people what I do.
How...You ask...watch this...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2uFH0NCMY4
Thank you Lord Jesus for bringing such a positive, amazing thing into our lives. Please let me be in YOUR will, and follow your plan. But Lord, help me also lead others to the truth by showing them hope and showing them something genuine and remarkable. If not through the facts, but by the change it has brought to my life, my actions, my words, and my mind. Amen
And if you did decide to finish reading my novel...please go back to my first post on this website...on dreaming as a continuation of this post.
